A heart-breakingly simple question for an absent parent… do you miss your children?
There is never a moment in my life when I do not think about the love and memories that should have taken place between my children and I. The emptiness seems to go on forever. No matter how hard I try, I am simply unable to shake the void in my heart.
This is what an alienated parent feels and experiences daily. There is no reprieve from the suffering we and our children are forced to endure. Our tormentors will not allow us peace nor, happiness as they seek to harm us mentally and emotionally. Yet, we seem to endure by a single strand of hope that one day we will be reunited with our children.
No matter, the days or weeks, months or even, years, we hold on to the belief of holding our children in our arms again. Perhaps, we will be old and grey before this happens, but our hope sustains us as we continue our struggles of reunification. Without this, we would become another hopeless statistic that no one will ever care or remember.
For those who cause us such pain and anguish, they are simply devoid of any moral compass and a destroyer of all that is good. They portray themselves as righteous individuals, but are in fact quite the opposite. They are incapable of love, loyalty or humanistic feelings.
How can we as a whole, civilized society of modern people ignore what is happening to the very fabric of family unities? Have we suddenly lost our ability to love, teach and raise our children in a manner that is conducive to what we want for ourselves or did we suddenly decide that self-gratification through revenge was more important?
I fail to understand the concept that some immoral parents gravitate towards. Somehow, they feel their own personal needs outweigh those of their children. When this happens, they are no longer a responsible and loving parent. This is when they become the nightmare that enters the dreams of their children.
On the other hand, you have an absent mother or father who only wants to love, shelter and protect their children from all harm. They fight tooth and nail in order to do so. However, this is not always enough.
The alienator fights viciously and recruits everyone around them in their bid to destroy the object of hatred. This means, their army is strong through lies, manipulation and deception. They convince their family, friends and even, the family courts of their genuine personality and desire to protect the children. All the while, they keep the mask of deception cinched up close to conceal their true identity.
We know who they really are and what they are capable of doing. Some are so skillful in their craft, they could tell someone the sky is purple and the listener would believe them. If only they would open the window and peer out, they would find out the truth.
In the meantime, we parents, our children and extended family members are subject to the abuse that is perpetrated against through the wrongful and vindictive actions of a former partner or spouse. Further, alienators are aided by the enabling family courts when this occurs and I wonder how much longer we will have to suffer. Surely, there must come a time when we can find peace and happiness again.
For some alienated parents who have been made to agonize so much, for so long they have chosen to let go in their effort to regain a sense of normality again. Other, still struggle on a daily basis. In the end, do you miss your children?