God, take me home … Ryan’s final Facebook post on world suicide prevention day
On World Suicide Prevention Day, heart-broken and frightened Ryan S Kelley, from Fort Wayne, Indiana, took to Facebook saying he was going to end it all.
He became another of those who are gone in 40 seconds, according to latest statistics.
World Suicide Prevention Day, promoted by the World Health Organisation, says that every 40 seconds, someone loses their life to suicide.
And Ryan, in his 30s, a campaigner over parental alienation, became one of those people.
But he isn’t just a statistic, Ryan’s is a real-life story and here the consumerwatchfoundation.com publishes his last post on Facebook.
Ryan wrote: “This is the hardest post I’ve ever had to do. By the time you all read this I will be gone.
I’m so sorry everyone, I’ve lost all my strength to carry on.
I have become a burden on my children and friend’s. I drag everyone down. I have been fighting to stay alive for years and I just can’t do it any more.
I understand many will judge and hate me for this and I’m so sorry to my children. I will miss you all. I am so sorry to my kid’s moms too.
I’m sorry to my friends and landlord.
I hope one day my children and friends will forgive me. Please let my children grow up to be successful and happy.
Please keep me and my children in your prayers as I say my final goodbye. I love you all.
My final request is to not be cremated . I don’t believe in that. I have other reasons .
I messed up recently and caught a case. I can’t keep up with my fines and am facing jail time. I am not cut out for jail. Once I get out of jail I’ll be sent to jail in Decatur for non payment of child support.
Once I get out of there I won’t have a phone. There also is no homeless shelter there. I will have no where to go or way to eat.
I will be no good to my children or anyone.
Please God forgive me and take me home.”
Andrew John Teague, from NAAP and D.A.D.s (dads against parental alienation), who spoke with Ryan about campaigning on a number of occasions, said: “Shortly after this message was posted, Ryan took his life.
“Not very often I post things with any of their names. This is public knowledge and my thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends.
“I have spoken with Ryan in the past, most of the time on his gloomiest times to help pick him up. It is very sad and heartbreaking.
“His family, children and anyone who knew Ryan will be shattered into pieces.
“The world needs to know exactly what goes on with so many. Children left behind never to see their dad again.”
Everybody at the consumerwatchfoundation.com sends their condolences.
World Mental Health Day describes itself as ‘a day for us to unite in our efforts to improve the mental health of people around the world.
‘The theme selected for this year’s Day is suicide prevention to raise awareness of the scale of suicide around the world and the role that each of us can play to help prevent it
To link with World Suicide Prevention Day, Facebook said it is tightening its policies on suicide after consulting with a series of experts on these topics.
The social media giant said: “The social network, like others in the space, has to walk a fine line when it comes to self-harm content. On the one hand, allowing people to openly discuss their mental health struggles with family, friends and other online support groups can be beneficial. But on the other, science indicates that suicide can be contagious.”
The consumerwatchfoundation.com says once again:
All parents, MPs and social workers should be asking one thing … Cafcass, what are you doing to stop this awful tyranny of despair?
International Men’s Day recently highlighted issues that men face on a global scale and encouraged people to have open conversations about mental health and suicide.
Andrew John Teague, from Swansea, said: “It’s an epidemic, people are not seeing their children and not even knowing when you will ever see them.
“It cripples me having to deal and help these vulnerable parents. I’m not ashamed to say I have had tears roll down my face.
“There needs to be reform before more and more become just another statistic. It’s barbaric the way these parents are treated.”
But Andrew also points out
that it’s not only dads who are driven to end it all. He has had to deal with
mums and grandparents who feel they’ve reached the end of the line. He
said: “A mum was rushed into hospital lucky to be alive. She had to be revived.
She has endured over four years fighting for her children.
“I can understand what the mother of the two children has gone through, heart-breaking.
“But I can only imagine the pain, hurt and suffering the family must feel seeing their daughter in this condition and feeling powerless to do anything.
“How many more need to go through this? It’s hell on earth for any parent, grandparent and family members.”