Dying for love, the parents who can’t take alienation any more
A group set up to battle parental alienation has revealed how many of its members have been driven to the brink of suicide because the fight to see their children has become too much.
The group D.A.D.s (dads against double standards), which has thousands of members, conducted a survey and shockingly scores of people reported they have become suicidal as their children turn against them after divorce or separation.
Andrew John Teague, who started the group less than a year ago with other victims, has also revealed how he has spent hours talking to people back from the edge.
Andrew, from Swansea, said: “Sometimes I’ve spent hours talking to grown men who are breaking their hearts because the courts and the parent with care seem to be deliberately trying to end their access. It is shocking to think though, it’s not only dads, it’s mums, grandparents, and the children too who are facing up to these tragic circumstances.”
Over the last ten months I have watched so many go through so much. And it is heartbreaking. Parents, grandparents and extended families are fighting relentlessly to be in their children’s lives.
But we are stopped from seeing them by exes, by new partners and by the families of our exes. Absolutely disgusting behaviour from one human to another.”
Recently, the Office for National Statistics said that four years ago suicide among men has reached its highest levels since the early Eighties.
Another report says parental alienation can seriously affect men’s mental health but also makes it clear that children caught in a cruel and vicious break-up can develop guilt, sadness, and depression.
And perhaps more revealingly an author’s study in Australia says that each day a parent dies due to the stress and heartbreak of losing their child in divorce, abduction or being taken into foster care.
Researching her book, Strength for Parents of Missing Children, Marie White contacted experts in the fields of abduction, parental alienation, grief, and divorce.
She said: “Children do come home, but what if the children come home and their parents aren’t there because they’ve committed suicide?”
In the survey carried out by the D.A.D.s group Paulene revealed: “I was suicidal a year ago and wanted to gas myself in the garage. I was such a mess and didn’t think I could cope. But now I’m here for the children, I love them so much.
Graeme wrote :”Depressed most of the time and have no faith in the law.”
Darren said: “Depressed and close to giving up.”
David said: I‘m amazed that more parents who’ve had the pleasure of family court haven’t killed themselves. The last six years are right up there on being the worst of my 50 years on this rock.”
Robert said: “Even my son says give up dad, she keeps winning and he is suffering from depression now too,”
Andrew has this message for victims of parental alienation: Don’t die inside speak out – for three and a half years I went through domestic hell and felt like I was walking on egg shells but now I am free and can speak out with pride.”