Christmas gift that could change world for parents ‘banned’ from their children
Victims of parental alienation have been given an extraordinary Christmas ‘gift’ which could make a difference to how carers and courts view them.
Campaigners and people with an in-depth knowledge of parental alienation have spent months putting together a dossier of shame and hope which is soon to be presented to social services, Cafcass, Britain’s courts and Parliament.
The report – which the consumerwatchfoundation.com begins publishing exclusively today – is estimated to be more than 40,000 words long and is one of the most in-depth studies made of the problem which destroys parents and children alike.
Its compilation was organised by Andrew John Teague, of D.A.D.s (dads against double standards) who has been battling to change attitudes towards PA for almost two years now.
He said: “The way families are treated by the so-called carers and the courts in appalling. Cafcass, which is supposedly there to help people as they try to sort their lives out after separation or divorce and keep in contact with their children, needs to be totally revamped.
“This report should go a long way to telling these people how they can finally get things right.
“They need to realise that in their ham-fisted and uncaring ways of dealing with families they are destroying lives, including the lives of the children, the people they are supposed to be protecting.”
The consumerwatchfoundation.com has published stories revealing the horrors of what some families have gone through because of the way carers and courts deal with them. They are well-documented cases of alienated parents being told that they shouldn’t tell their children they love them, send letters and birthday cards expressing affection while some only have supervised visiting rights others have revealed the heartbreak of not seeing their off-spring, sometimes, for years.
D.A.Ds, which began as a Facebook page and now has more than 20,000 members, was a prime mover in the setting up of the National Association of Alienated Parents which held its first workshop in London recently.
The workshop was organised by PA authorities Karen and Nick Woodall, who have published a handbook for parents and practitioners, Understanding Parental Alienation, Learning to Cope, Helping to Heal.
Karen believes that parental alienation is finally starting to be seen as child abuse in the UK and CAFCASS – the organisation which claims it looks after the interests of children involved in family proceedings – has agreed it is necessary to change how it treats families.
A spokesman put it this way: “We work with children and their families, and then advise the courts on what we consider to be in the best interests of individual children.”
Many victims of PA deny this is what they do, claiming they do more damage to families and children than good.
Nick describes himself as: “A partner at the Family Separation Clinic. I focus on separating families and supporting the whole family to manage change in ways that provide the best outcomes for children.”
The Family Separation Clinic holds regular workshop for alienated parents.
Karen said: “Parents will be supported from now on by the new representative body – The National Association of Alienated Parents. We will join with other parent support bodies as part of the worldwide representation of the needs of families affected by PA. NAAP, will formally launch with a seminar at the House of Commons in February and will increase pressure on government and CAFCASS to properly meet their needs as set out by internationally recognised standards of practice.”
Karen said: “Parental alienation is harmful to children and deeply distressing for families. In its worst form it is serious child abuse, in all forms it is a tragic outcome for children. I welcome the launch of NAAP and know that the power of loving parents will bring great change in the coming year.”